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Not to be dramatic or anything but as a lesbian what saved my life was realizing that attraction is supposed to feel good

If your attraction to men makes you viscerally uncomfortable, distressed, and feels like a fulfillment of a default obligation rather than something that produces good and exciting feelings, perhaps it isn’t attraction

This is important to recognize! If these things are true for you, then you’re not attracted to men and it would be useless and unhealthy for you to continue trying to be attracted to men.

So stop- it’s okay. You don’t need to be attracted to men to be with one. You just need to care about him, and work on developing your relationship, with or without attraction.

wow, that’s one of the most horrifying blogs i have ever seen.

Jesus it’s like looking at myself 6 years in the past when I was being abused and in deep internalized homophobia hell. @ all women who might end up in the notes of this— if anyone in your life is telling you to be with a man even when you’re not attracted to him, they are abusing you. If a man is telling you that you need to stay with him and have sex with him when you both know you’re not attracted to men, he is sexually abusing you. This is a violent ideology.

(Source: soloveitchik)

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